Livin’ la Pura Vida (Week 4)!

*I’ve been back in the states now for almost 2 months, but I finally have some time to share what happened on our last week in Costa Rica 🙂

     This was one of the parts of the trip that I was most looking forward to and most anxious about. I’d never been ziplining before and let’s just say I’m not a huge fan of heights. However, I knew that getting to zipline through the cloud forests of Costa Rica isn’t an opportunity that comes around too often, so I went for it. And I’m so glad I did!!! After we got our gear on, we did a practice line and I loved it. We then boarded “air gondolas” that took us up to the top. There were 8 different lines and you start at the top and make your way back down. Most were singles, but I did two with a partner. It rained the entire time, so the views weren’t too great on most of them, but it was so much fun! (The highest line was 328ft high and the longest line was nearly half a mile!)

Our guides told us that there would be a surprise after our last line. We then realized they had two options to get us back on the ground: be repelled down or free fall. Running off adrenaline I guess, I said “free fall!” when they asked me which group I wanted to be in. So, I got hooked onto the bungee cord and turned with my back towards the ground. The guide asked if I wanted to be pushed or jump and I said jump. Before I knew it, he pushed me and I was free falling. This was hands down the scariest thing I have ever done. Let’s just say my facial expression was hilarious when we got our pictures back, but I’m so glad I went for it!

before the free fall!

and the moment we all were waiting for… THE BEACH!

We finally made it to Playa Hermosa which is in the Guanacaste Provence. Our hotel was really nice and we were greeted by huge iguanas on the roof when we arrived. We got to spend four days at the beach. I mostly spent the days listening to music laying in the sand, walking the beach with my friends, and I lead a few friends in a yoga flow.

^some pics from beach day 1~

We spent half of day 2 at a volcano!



We headed over to a nearby beach, Playa Coco, one night and I saw the most beautiful sunset I’ve ever seen. On our last night at the beach, we had dinner on the beach. It felt bittersweet- I was excited to reunite with my family and dog, Beau, but I realized I was gonna miss the family we formed on this trip.

It took a leap of courage for me to decide to leave the country for the first time on a trip with mostly strangers, but I’ll be forever grateful that I did. I laughed harder than I had in a long time and learned so much about myself. I challenged myself and pushed myself physically on the many hikes we took. There were times when I was exhausted and felt ready to get back home, but this trip was magical. All aspects. The good that was highlighted on social media and the not so great, too.

I feel as if this trip was a dream honestly. Costa Rica is such a beautiful place and I feel so blessed that I got to spend a month there this summer. I truly hope to go back soon someday and explore more of the world. It’s crazy how much is still out there for me to explore.

If you’ve read this far, thanks! I hope you enjoyed reading about my trip 🙂

Pura Vida,





Livin’ La Pura Vida (Week 3)

We finally made it to the capital, San Jose! 🙂

School Visits
Because we are all future (or current) educators, it only seemed right to visit local schools. On the first day of our school visits, we spent the first half of the day at a local primary school with Kristine and her fifth grade students. We also went to a vocational high school with Aldo and his tenth-eleventh grade students.

At the primary school, we participated in a cultural exchange with the fifth graders. They prepared traditional food for us to try and we split into conversation tables- some of the topics we covered were: geography, food, culture, etc. Our group taught them some American songs and dances, such as head, shoulders, knees, and toes and even Whip/Nae Nae (which was a huge hit by the way). At the high school, we talked to the students about currency and symbols. We even created our own bill (one side reflected Costa Rica and the other reflected Georgia). We toured both schools and I enjoyed getting to meet the students and teachers. I even got to visit one class and have a Q&A session with the students which was really fun!
The last school we planned a music show for us and it was AMAZING!

Night at Kristine’s
One of the teachers we met invited us over to her house for dinner. As soon as we walked in, Kristine had music playing through her speakers and lots of snacks for us to eat.After dinner, she even gave us a merengue lesson right in her living room! Thanks for your welcoming us into your home Kristine.


Exploring San Jose
     We also had some down time each day while we were in SJ to explore! I experienced a second wave of culture shock because SJ is so different from the mountains where we spent most of our time in Costa Rica! Crossing the streets gave me anxiety because there weren’t many traffic lights. The first day of exploring was off to an interesting start because as soon as a friend and I set off to find the Jade museum it began pouring and my Toms broke (RIP it was a faithful 7 years), so I had to remove the sole of one and walk in the rain with basically one shoe on.

If this trip has taught me anything, it’s taught me to go with the flow! And to laugh at the obstacles- like our bus having no AC on the way to SJ and us having to switch buses on the side of the road. Anyways, we got to visit a cute coffee shop, the national Jade museum, a local supermarket, a beautiful cathedral, a marketplace, eat at some yummy restaurants (shoutout to Ambiente for the yummy brownie crepe), and got to experience SJ nightlife.

I think I was most excited about eating at the McDonald’s to be honest because theirs was way cooler.

P.S. I loved our hotel. It was such a cute, quaint boutique hotel which was nice to have in the midst of such a busy city. The hotel had lots of quirky sculptures and art and I loved it. Check out Hotel Don Carlos if you’re ever in SJ! They also have a delicious restaurant and gift shop in the hotel.

Well, three weeks down! One to go!

Pura Vida,
Nicole 🙂


Livin’ La Pura Vida! (Week 2)

[i wrote this 2 weeks ago but i’m just now publishing it]

2 weeks down & 2 weeks to go!
These past two weeks in Costa Rica have just been getting better and better! Here’s a recap.

William’s Heladeria 

We made a 20 minute trip up the mountain to a heladeria. We were expecting a shop, but we were greeted by two adorable dogs at the end of a driveway. When we walked up, we found a friendly man named William. William later shared with us that the heladeria was his late wife’s business and that he still operates it in her honor. We talked about how little the material things of life matter. He made us some delicious ice cream and we sat in rocking chairs with a beautiful view of the mountain. We went back again the next Saturday and he remembered us 🙂 It felt like I was going to see an old friend.

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That night we took a Merengue dance class! This experience confirmed that dancing’s not really my thing, BUT I had so much fun!

Santa Elena
On Monday, we took a trip to the nearest town to get some materials for our English Camp (more on that in a bit!) I bought a few souvenirs, sent a few postcards back to the States, and found a fried chicken place.

English Camp!

Local students (ages 4-12) came to the UGA Costa Rica campus this week for an English Camp! My group and I co-taught the music group. We taught the students music terms such as loud, soft, rapid, and slow. We had so much fun! Our group got an excuse to have a dance party 🙂 This was my first time ever teaching English and it was challenging, but it was definitely a memorable experience.

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Also…. Tuesday was my 21st birthday!! My professor is the sweetest and asked the kitchen staff to make me a cake. It was very yummy! I am so grateful to see another birthday and to get to celebrate in this beautiful place. It’s a birthday I’ll never forget.

Host Family
Tuesday was a busy day! In between my birthday and English Camp, I also moved in with a local family for the week. They lived on a farm up the mountain and it was quite the trek, but the views were incredible. I am grateful for this opportunity to live with a local family and learn a lot. I got ample practice with my Spanish skills because my host family did not speak English.
My little host brother and I bonded over watching Scooby Doo and eating yummy snacks, such as Chiky’s and Best chocolate bars.

Cloud Forest
On Friday we went to the Monteverde Cloud Forest Reserve! It was beautiful 🙂 Shoutout to our guide, Oscar! He was the best and he’s been to GA before (even a GA/AL football game). Go Dawgs! He showed us lots of birds and flora&fauna. It rained the entire time on our hike, but the view of the waterfall and beautiful sights was well worth it.
Check out this tree!


COCO showing
The community center shows movies every Friday night for local families. A group of us knew we didn’t wanna miss this because they were showing Coco! Coco is one of my favorite movies and I got to see it in Spanish for the first time.

Party time!
A local school held a fundraiser Saturday evening and we had a blast! They served food, hosted a bingo game, and even had a DJ. It was nice getting to dress up for a change and take a break from my hiking boots & rain jacket. Everyone in Monteverde knows one another and we felt like we were truly a part of the community. I even ran into Oscar (our cloud forest tour guide) and he remembered us. That’s just the dynamic here- everyone knows everyone.

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What a week it’s been! It’s been difficult at times:
tick bites, long walks that are primarily uphill, getting caught in a storm in the dark on our way home, slipping and falling in the woods, etc. but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. This has been the trip of a lifetime.


This week we are headed to the capital, San Jose, to visit some local schools. 🙂

pura vida,

Nicole 🙂




Livin’ La Pura Vida (week 1)

I can’t believe I’ve almost been in Costa Rica for a week now! There’s been so much to see and do, but I finally have a free day to recap our trip so far!

“Why are you in Costa Rica?”
I decided last year to pursue certification to teach English as a Second Official Language (ESOL)  students. This study abroad program allows me to earn my ESOL Endorsement by taking classes at the UGA Costa Rica campus and I will be working with local students and families in the surrounding communities through my service-learning course.

Dia Uno
     Our group met at the airport and flew to beautiful Liberia, Guanacaste together! When we arrived in Liberia, we stopped at a local supermarket for lunch. I got to practice my Spanish when I ordered my food which was a memorable experience. It finally sunk in that I was actually in Costa Rica now. I then paid for my food in $USD and received colones back. The exchange rate is 1 USD=540 colones. We then took a 4 hour bus ride up to the mountains where we are staying this month. I enjoyed seeing children playing in the street, a man selling fruit from a stand, and all the adorable dogs running around.

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our bungalow!

Dia Dos y Tres
*Nature Hike! Our awesome tour guide Cody led us on a hike. We spotted a few monkeys and coatis!
*We began our classes and planning for our English Camp! 
Local children are coming for 3 days next week for the English camp we are leading.
*Cow Milking!
I’d never milked a cow before and it wasn’t as easy as it looks, but it was fun! There’s a sustainable farm on UGA’s campus so we got to see the biodigester that converts manure into methane gas which fuels the kitchen.
*The food has been delicious by the way! We have rice and beans with every meal paired with meat typically.


Dia Cuatro
*Coffee & sugar cane farm

We got to visit a local coffee and sugar cane farm owned by a man named Gilberth! I even got to process a sugar cane and drink it. It was good but super sweet of course! We got to see the various stages of the coffee beans and the actual coffee plant. Some of the group even tried the coffee (I’m not a coffee drinker). We also went to a small corner store before heading back to campus.


I’m gonna walk to a local ice cream shop later today because I heard it’s near a great view! Tonight we have a dance class 🙂

It’s been such a busy past few days already and I’m looking forward to the weeks to come. I’m not gonna lie it was a little difficult adjusting at first. This is my first trip abroad and I had to get used to limited wifi and no cell service at all. However, I have enjoyed disconnecting more than I usually would. Next week we’ll be going on some more hikes, teaching at the English camp, and staying with a local family for the week 🙂 I’m looking forward to meeting them on Tuesday! Oh and my birthday is on Tuesday so I’m looking forward to celebrating 21 years as well 🙂

I’m incredibly grateful to be here. I wanted to acknowledge what a privilege and blessing it truly is.
If you’ve read this far, thank you.

Pura Vida,
Nicole 🙂


Happy New Year ✨

Hello world, I’m back after a 5 day hiatus from social media. It’s funny reading that because 5 days doesn’t seem like a long time to be away from something, but as much as we consume social media, 5 days is a significant amount of time.

I wanted to unplug from my phone and social media accounts to be more present with my family and friends. I wanted to get in the right headspace entering the new year.

I came across these new year reflection questions. I wanted to share them because it’s important to reflect on our past as we plan for the future.

1) Where do you see yourself a year from now?

2) How are you going to get to that place?

3) What’s one thing you want to do more in 2018?

4) What’s one thing you want to do less of in 2018?

5) What is your 2018 mantra?

✨ may your 2018 be full of new beginnings, second chances, laughter, love, and fearlessness.

Happy New Year and Go Dawgs!

my journey to self love

I submitted an essay on self love to an online publication five months ago. My work wasn’t chosen to be shared on their website, but I still had the document just sitting on my computer. Waiting for the day that I’d want to share it on my own personal blog. Well, I decided today’s the day. 2017 has been so good to me. I’ve really embraced the messiness but beauty of life. I’m learning to embrace the journey particularly the one I embarked on in 2016 to truly learn to love and celebrate myself.

It’s been fun, it’s been challenging, it’s been frustrating, but it’s been worth it. Progress is not linear.

Anyways, here’s that letter I wrote during the summer. I hope it helps you as much as its helped me.
For nearly 18 years I struggled with self-love and acceptance. I often felt inferior to other people. I lived my life believing that other people’s opinions of me determined my worth. I viewed the world as my mirror and believed that if the world didn’t like what they saw then there must be something wrong with me. It’s a sad truth to reveal, but it’s a sad reality that many of us face. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been blessed with the best family around who support me with unconditional love and encouragement. And my friends? They’re just as great. I seriously ask myself almost daily it seems, “How did I get so lucky?” I love having the biggest support system- whether it’s a friend texting me just to remind me how much I’m loved or making plans to see me after a long time, I just always feel loved by my friends and family. They constantly remind me how I’m great I am- inside and out.

Yet, I somehow always felt empty. I used to thrive off the affirmation I received, but that high eventually wore off and I would begin feeling low again. I would have a self deprecating monologue on loop in my mind. But this story has a happy ending don’t worry.
I’m going to take you on my journey to self-love as 2016 was the year I finally learned to love myself.
I. Accept yourself. Celebrate Yourself. Repeat.
    Despite the positivity and love flowing from my support system, I still couldn’t shake these feelings of self-hatred that would deter my journey to self-love. I built myself up only to be torn down by a hateful or rude comment someone may have intentionally or unintentionally said to me. I used to place entirely too much value on what other people thought of my appearance especially. I distinctly remember times growing up when I would feel confident wearing something only to have someone tell me I looked big or that I shouldn’t dress that way. The thing that always bothered me the most and still bothers is how people are so concerned with the lives of others. People I barely know would feel the need to comment on my size as if it affected them. I used to feed into this negativity. I would think I looked terrible because someone didn’t like how I looked. It’s a self destructive mindset. Because the truth is, even after you begin to love yourself, people will still find flaws in you. But it’s up to you to be so content and satisfied with yourself that their words are nothing… just merely words.
    I decided I didn’t want to continue living my life according to what other people thought, so I made the decision to begin accepting myself. I began listing the things I loved about myself. I began listing personality traits, too. I realized that my list of things I loved about myself far outweighed the list of things that I didn’t particularly like.I realized that these things don’t define who I am as a person. They’re parts of me sure. But they’re not who I am. I decided not to let them rule or define my life.
    After you’ve accepted yourself, the joy truly begins when you decide to celebrate yourself. I felt celebrated already by the people I love, but that doesn’t compare to the love you feel when you learn to celebrate who you are. Your quirks. Your body. Your story. Your life. I began celebrating everything about myself. I began celebrating just the simple fact that I was in good health. I began celebrating my existence on this planet!
II. Embrace your flaws. Choose authenticity + vulnerability.
     Sure it’s fun celebrating your great qualities and learning to embrace them, but what about those insecurities? What about those problem areas that caused you to neglect self love in the first place?
     The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to meet myself where I am. To realize that I am a work in progress. That I’m not perfect and never will be, so I might as well stop aiming to be perfect (or anything close.) I learned to appreciate the progress. To put in the work and value the journey to becoming the person I hope to be someday. Once you embrace your flaws and insecurities, they lose their power and dominance in your life. You tend to take them at face value. You begin seeing yourself as a whole human being who makes mistakes. Give yourself grace. Show yourself kindness when you have a bad day or make a mistake. Remember that you are human and that you are still learning.
    Once you begin recognizing that you are a work in progress, you will begin to value authenticity in your life. You will start feeling inspired to just be yourself. The raw you. The unfiltered you. The you that sometimes doesn’t have it all together. There’s power and beauty to authentic people. I personally am drawn to people who present themselves in an unapologetic way. In a way that says “This is me. All of me. Take it or leave it.” It encourages me to be myself. It encourages me to be my biggest fan. It helps me realize that we all are on our own journeys towards acceptance of something. We all have fears and insecurities and it makes life seem a little less scary when you realize that everyone’s a little scared, too. I mention vulnerability because that goes hand in hand with authenticity for me. I’m becoming more vulnerable with sharing my journey. 
III. Progress is not linear. Take it one day at a time.
    Lastly, before I go… it’s important to remember that progress is not linear. Once you begin to love yourself and encourage yourself, your bad days won’t disappear. Your feelings of inadequacy may still show up at your door, but I want you to know that each day that you make the decision to love yourself is a step in the right direction. If you take steps back in progress, that’s okay. Your self-love journey is still valid. Take it one day at a time. Write down accomplishments in your self-love journey. Write down mantras that inspire and encourage you. Share them with others on social media or written on a note to give someone in person. Find activities, hobbies, or exercise that feels good. Live your best life. Whatever that looks like for you.
Stop looking at other people’s progress as a measure for your own. You are your biggest competition. Be a better you than the day before.You are your home. You are the love of your life- no one can ever take that from you.

P.S. Take a break from the screens every now and then. Sometimes social media is exhausting. I take days where I choose to engage more with the world around me and less with the world in front of me through a screen.

If you’ve read this far, thank you! you’re the best.
remember to spread kindness and love this holiday season.

Happy Holidays,

Challenge Accepted

Life isn’t easy.
I think that’s a truth we all understand and experience in our lives.
We all face our own battles, obstacles, and just plain bad days every once in a while. Some of us are constantly experiencing adversity while some of us may have some time to breathe in between life’s opposition.

Sure, our trials don’t look the same. Some of us have more privilege than others, but I certainly believe that life has tested each and every one of us.

However…. I believe it’s not about what you’ve gone through, but your response to what you’ve gone through that matters.

I’d say I’m an optimist by nature. I’m the person who tends to view the metaphorical glass “half full.” I’m the person who usually wakes up on the right side of the bed.

It hasn’t been easy to remain this positive for nearly twenty years, but I’ve met some inspiring people along the way whose wisdom I’ve adopted in own my life. Here’s some of the things they’ve taught me:

  • “It’s only considered failure if you give up. If you eventually accomplish the goal, then you’ve still succeeded.”
  • “It’s not about waiting for something to happen. It’s about your attitude while waiting.”
  • “Sometimes we ask God to give us more of certain qualities like patience/faith/trust, but sometimes instead of just getting those things, God chooses to give us circumstances that teach us to have those things.”
  • “Progress is not linear”
  • “Since change scares you, try not to focus on the idea that things are changing. Instead, just embrace the slow transition of life.”

A few months ago, I saw a tweet Chance the Rapper re-tweeted from his manager, Patrick Corcoran, that perfectly sums up my thoughts on challenges:


I think the most important thing I’ve learned is to embrace authenticity and vulnerability. You don’t have all the answers. It’s okay none of us do, so we should just present ourselves as the raw, works in progress that we are. It makes facing life so much easier and I guarantee you’ll learn a lot more from the people around you.

You can better love yourself and others by choosing joy in the face of adversity. I love the quote that says “Just when you think you’ve been buried, you’ve been planted.” Use this planting time to learn and grow because great things are on the way 🙂


Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Comparison is the thief of joy. We’re not meant to covet the lives of other people but instead learn to love and celebrate our own life. Life is sweeter when we learn to appreciate what God has for us and only us and use our blessings to glorify His name.

It’s so easy to look at others and want what they have. It might be the new job promotion they just received, their picture perfect family, their good looks, their new car, etc…. the list goes on and on. We may not live everyday thinking these thoughts, but I believe many of us have days when we want what others have and question God for not giving us what they have.

Social media gives us easy access into the worlds of other people. We’re able to see all their accomplishments and blessings almost as soon as they’ve received and achieved them. We begin first admiring their lives, but that admiration (if we’re not careful) can soon turn into jealously. We begin wanting what they posses and soon after the jealousy we begin feeling bad about our own lives or ourselves. It’s a dangerous game to play.

It’s dangerous because we’re comparing someone’s highlight reel to our behind the scenes. I struggle with this from time to time. I’ll be honest and admit that truth. It’s an area of my life that I have been working on improving.

Once I realized that we all have our own battles we face, I realized that social media was creating an illusion of a perfect life. I may see someone at their best, but I have not seen them at their worst. We all have our behind the scenes moments. Our not so pretty moments. Our moments when we’re at our lowest.

I think it’s important to focus on our own highs and lows instead of focusing on other people’s journeys. Instead of competing with other people, we can focus on competing with other versions of ourselves. I can work to become a better “me” than I was the day before. A better student, a better daughter, a better friend, a better sister, etc. Our own journey and transformation into becoming who God has called us to be is all that truly matters. We should set goals for ourselves to make ourselves proud not to make other people jealous.

Learning this sooner rather than later will save you so much heartache and will help you not feel inadequate.

The reason I titled this post “Comparison is the Thief of Joy” is because we often miss out on living our life to its fullest potential because we choose to focus on what we don’t have. We choose to focus on how we measure up to other people. We may be happy and satisfied with our own lives, but if we’re not confident and content in what we have, that joy can easily be swayed when we begin comparing ourselves to other people.

The most valuable lesson I’ve learned is that what God has for me is for me only. I can admire other people’s intelligence, beauty, career, relationships, etc without questioning or diminishing the value of my own. I can say “wow, they’re great” and recognize my own greatness, too.

I think a way to eliminate this problem in society is to realize that life is not meant to be a competition with other people.

I challenge anyone reading this to write out a list of things you love about yourself, a list of the ways God has worked in your life, and a list of ways that you want to improve yourself. Focus and reflect on those lists.

Spend so much time focusing on the positives that you won’t have time for comparison and envy.

It’s a process, but I guarantee it will be worth it.

oh, and before I go: Life’s timeline doesn’t look the same for everyone. We’re all meant to do things at our own pace and at our own stages in life. Life wouldn’t be nearly as fun or interesting if we all completed the same steps at the same time.
If it takes you an extra few years to earn your degree, congratulations!
If you don’t want kids or want to wait later in life to have kids or get married, congratulations!
Life’s your own journey and we’re all just along for the ride.

Until next time,

Nicole 🙂

10 min thoughts

“it’s almost friday” i remind myself every week…. the thought of the weekend gets me through the week.

instead, let’s live for every day. every day can be friday if you want it to be (seriously).

life’s not meant to be survived. it’s meant to be lived.

find what that looks like for you.

i was joking with a friend and we joked about how we schedule everything in our day except when we sleep basically.

that started to make me uncomfortable, so instead i’m scheduling what i can and not pushing myself.

treat yourself. rest before you are tired.

sometimes i take mental health days to take a break from my responsibilities and instead plan what my week will look like, call a friend and catch up, or watch a movie.

the pomodoro technique has become my best friend in college: set a timer for 25 mins, take a break for 5 mins, repeat 3 more times, and after the 4th 25-minute period, you can take a 20+ minute break.

i’m also in this place of reflecting on this quote i read: “we’re letting things that don’t matter take priority over things that do”

^ reflect on that, if unproductive energy needs to be removed from your life then by all means (for yourself), cut back on some things.

i figured while i wait for this bus on campus- i could type some thoughts. so here they are. hope you enjoyed reading them!

happy thursday!




monday musings


1. It’s okay to be yourself. I recently added that little mantra to my blog because I’ve always supported and admired authenticity. For years I struggled with the need to be liked by everyone and I often felt that I did something wrong when someone didn’t like me. I learned that it’s okay to be yourself. It’s okay to be comfortable in who you are as a person and comfortably exist in who you are.

2. Lean on the people you love. For the longest time, I tried to appear to have it all together and I wanted to be the one other people came to with their problems. I didn’t want to unload my problems onto anyone else. I finally realized how self-destructive that mentality was and I have become more intentional when I ask people how they are doing and I hesitate to say “I’m fine” when they ask me. I am learning to be honest and lean on the people I love for support.
Next time you ask someone how they are doing take time to actually listen to their response.
Text your friends and check on them every now and then. It means a lot. Make time for the people in your life… especially your parents and older relatives. You can learn a lot.

3. Take care of yourself. Your body is your home. It’s been with you since the beginning. Treat it with kindness. I don’t always eat the healthiest, but I am learning to take care of myself. I’m learning to eat healthier but still enjoy the food I eat now.  Find some form of exercise (if you are physically able to) that you enjoy. It could be walking, playing tennis, dancing, etc. You’ll thank yourself later.

4. Learn for the sake of learning. I know school is tough for most of us. I’m not a huge fan of it these days. I’m constantly tired. But I realized it was the work that makes me dread school. I do enjoy learning though. I enjoy most of the content I just don’t enjoy drowning in deadlines. I enjoy learning new things. Knowledge is valuable and important.

Make learning fun! Watch game shows and learn cool facts. Read, read, read. Listen to others more. A quote I found says that when people talk they are repeating things they already know, but when people listen that’s when the learning takes place.

5. Believe in something…. and stand up for your beliefs. Whether you decide to follow a religion or you chose not to- find what you believe. I believe you shouldn’t let anyone decide that for you. It’s more genuine and meaningful when you have those epiphanies on your own. Find what you’re passionate about. Whether you’re super into politics or you couldn’t care less, figure out what do care about. Learn and grow in those identities. As we grow, we may even change some of our identities as we learn from the people around us. Remember to always stay tolerant and open minded on your journey.

Also, fight for what’s right. Fight for everyone to have safety, equality, and equity in this world (in whatever way that means for you). Don’t stand for the mistreatment of any human being. Stay woke. Stay updated on what’s going on in the world around you.

6. Don’t go chasing love. It will find you every time I promise. I am a firm believer that people are placed in your life for a reason. I do believe that you will meet your ‘person’ someday. It’s important to get to know yourself and figure out what you want and refuse to settle for anything less. Once I realized I’d rather be alone than ever settle for anything less than I deserved, I began finding comfort in being on my own.
Sometimes the greatest love is the love we receive from our family and friends. Don’t forget to appreciate their love while you’re looking your soulmate.

7. Do what makes you happy and no one else.  It’s sad to say but I mostly get negative reactions when I tell people that I plan to teach for a living. I get kind words and encouragement too don’t get me wrong. However, I mostly get told to prepare to: live on a small salary, be underappreciated, and have kids wear my patience thin. But I don’t mind it. My heart is full and my face still lights up when I work with children. I always knew it’s what I wanted to do. I used to teach my stuffed animals in my room. I used to brainstorm lesson plans I’d someday use in my classroom. I am excited and humbled by the opportunity to teach young people and I can’t wait to get started.

8. “Do it Afraid”-Joyce Meyer. I’ve learned to be fearless. I’m still working on it, but I believe taking a small leap is the first step. Moving to Athens to go UGA was something I did afraid. I was scared to leave my close friends and family behind. I was nervous to be a black woman on a predominantly white campus- “what if people aren’t nice of me?” “what if i feel like I don’t belong on UGA’s campus?” were some thoughts that played on repeat in my mind. Going away for college excited a lot of people and it excited me too, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t terrified. That’s mostly why I decided to come here. I wanted to push myself because growth happens when we push ourselves. Growth happens when we defy even our own expectations.
Writing on this blog is also something I do afraid. I was nervous to share my first post. I try to write with a layer of vulnerability. I want you to feel as though you know me (or at least parts of me) through my writing. That’s a very scary thing to do because I’m subjecting myself to criticism, but I am also sharing my passion with the world. I learned that agreeing to try something is the hardest part. It’s all downhill from there.

9. Forgive others and love them unconditionally. That expression “hurt people hurt people” holds so much truth. When you neglect to forgive someone, you’re holding on to pain, anger, bitterness, and all those negative feelings. It takes maturity and courage to forgive someone when they’ve hurt you. It’s easier said than done, but you’ll thank yourself for it later. We’re not perfect. We all fall short. I’ve learned to forgive the people in my life when they hurt me (intentionally or intentionally).

10. Show that same grace you give others to yourself. The scariest realization for me was realizing that I was my own worst enemy. I was constantly aiming for perfection and getting upset when I made a mistake. I found that forgiving others was easy, but forgiving myself was difficult. I struggled to accept myself flaws and all. I’m learning to give myself grace. I’ve learned to appreciate the journey towards the woman I want to become. I’ve learned to accept being a work in progress and know that I can love myself during the process. I’m learning to be my biggest fan. I’m learning that progress is not linear. Progress has ups, downs, zigzags. As long as we get from point a to point b, that’s all that matters right?

11. Love yourself + love others + love life. I’ve learned to stop apologizing for who I am. I’ve learned to accept the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once I began loving myself, I inevitably learned to love others better. I learned to love with intention. I appreciate the amazing people in my life for who they are. I’m using my journey to inspire and help other people. It’s uncomfortable talking about my insecurities, but if anything, I want to thank anyone who’s ever called me fat, ugly, annoying, awkward, etc. A year ago I wouldn’t have even addressed that, but today those words don’t bother me. They made me realize just how much I needed to love myself more than ever. Life is bigger. God is bigger. Life is too beautiful for this whole self-loathing thing guys. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission!
It’s a long journey to get to this point but I promise you it will all make sense one day.

If you’ve made it this far, thanks for sticking with this. This whole blog thing in general really. My writing is always a bit of a long read.

It’s been fun and I’ll be here for as long as you’ll have me!

Happy Monday. You’re all awesome and beautiful people.

Use today to reflect on a list of your own lessons you’ve learned.

until next time,

Nicole 🙂